Kate and Keith have spent years afraid to spend—till now. Partly 2 of this dialog, Ramit challenges them to rewrite the cash scripts which have dominated their lives: Kate’s want for management, Keith’s concern of being dependent, and the invisible narratives handed down by way of generations.
They think about a future with journey, group, and goal, if they will confront this query: What’s the purpose of getting cash when you by no means use it?
However first, they should uncover the thriller behind Kate’s underperforming belief fund, which is $5 million lower than projected…
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[00:00:00] Kate: My dad and mom have at all times taught me that cash is evil, so there’s a variety of disgrace and a variety of emotion wrapped up in my dad and mom and their expectations.
[00:00:08] Keith: I began simply doing math. I could not perceive why we weren’t taking a look at $5 million.
[00:00:12] Ramit: Total, taking a look at this belief, I’m completely flabbergasted on the returns over the past 30 years. It is price you tens of millions.
[00:00:20] Kate: I nonetheless do not feel like I’ve management over it.
[00:00:23] Keith: This energy dynamic has her performing as if she’s a 12-year-old lady.
[00:00:28] Ramit: Kate, have you learnt why you do not have tens of millions and tens of millions of {dollars} extra?
[00:00:31] Kate: I do not know.
[00:00:31] Ramit: You are an grownup, absolutely fledged grownup. You run a enterprise. However the minute it involves this, you revert again into childhood.
[Narration]
[00:00:39] Ramit: I found one thing stunning final week once we met Kate and Keith. They earned $30,000 a 12 months, and Kate just lately obtained entry to a belief fund that was arrange by her dad and mom. It is price roughly one million bucks. That belief fund was arrange when she was a teen. And if that cash was invested in easy index funds, it will be price round 6 million. However in the present day, greater than 30 years later, it is solely price 1 million. What occurred to the 5 million?
[00:01:12] With a purpose to assist this investigation, I requested our companions at Aspect to dig into the portfolio utilizing all the knowledge we may collect, after which to assist create a customized roadmap to assist Kate and Keith create their Wealthy Life. However first, let’s work out why the belief has barely grown in 30 years.
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[00:01:51] The Aspect-provided situations mentioned are based mostly on inputs offered by Kate and Keith and are based mostly on trade customary assumptions. The knowledge is for illustrative and academic functions solely. I’m not a member of Aspect and have an incentive to endorse Aspect as I’ve an ongoing fee-based contract for money compensation based mostly on this endorsement. All opinions are my very own and never a assure of an identical end result.
[Interview]
[00:02:12] Ramit: What is the present worth of the belief?
[00:02:14] Kate: That is what I believe is admittedly weird as a result of the present worth is one million.
[00:02:16] Ramit: What? 20-plus years later?
[00:02:18] Kate: Mm-hmm.
[00:02:19] Keith: It is virtually 30 years.
[00:02:20] Ramit: Okay. Maintain on. Do we’ve got entry to this? Can we open it up?
[00:02:24] Kate: We are able to.
[00:02:26] Ramit: All proper. Present that on display screen. I obtained to search out out what’s up in this– the place is that this belief invested in? Holy [Bleep]. Are you able to simply think about, as you are pulling that up– 30 years. So if it was 800k, let me simply do the maths. 800, 1.6, 3.2, 6.4. That is seven. Mainly, it needs to be a [Bleep] ton of cash. The place is it? Holy [Bleep]. What in God’s title is that this? Oh my God. Oh, how good. Only a tiny bit within the Vanguard Fund and the remaining is in a bunch of horse [Bleep].
[00:03:23] Kate: This can be a monetary advisor who focuses on sustainable investing.
[00:03:30] Ramit: Okay. So what do you see if you take a look at all these items simply off the highest?
[00:03:36] Kate: I see so many alternative numbers that do not make sense, that it makes me really feel like, effectively, good factor I’ve a monetary advisor, as a result of I do not know what this implies.
[00:03:45] Ramit: I am going to let you know what I see. What I see are a loopy quantity of funds and particular person investments, most of which have charges, expense ratios. In all probability a few of them have entrance finish or backend hundreds. I might should look. However mainly they’re like method too many. That is like strolling into any person’s front room and there is 75 totally different toys. What the [Bleep] is going on in right here? Can we simply set up? Do we’d like this?
[00:04:14] It is simply method an excessive amount of [Bleep]. Most individuals can have one goal date fund or three index funds to get basic broad illustration of the market. You could have 30 investments. Let’s go to exercise. I am keen to guess we see a bunch of trades which incur buying and selling charges, taxes.
[00:04:30] Keith: $2,500 service payment.
[00:04:32] Ramit: Oh. The place’s that?
[00:04:34] Keith: Down towards the underside.
[00:04:36] Ramit: Oh my [Bleep] God. Click on that. Maintain on. I am about to have a coronary heart assault. Everyone, pay attention, if I die on this [Bleep] podcast, you understand that I went out effectively. I did what I used to be meant to be doing, which is blasting these godforsaken wealth managers taking folks’s cash by way of charges. Let’s have a look. A advisory payment, $2,573. How fascinating.
[00:05:03] Starting worth of your portfolio, 1.02 million. Complete worth, 1.02 million. Change in value– let’s simply take a look at this. 2021, it dropped from 1.2 million, and in 2025, it is 1.0. Who the [Bleep] performs like this? I actually may take a armadillo and get higher efficiency from this armadillo than this funding supervisor. What does this imply to you, Kate, if you take a look at this web page?
[00:05:35] Kate: Frustration.
[00:05:36] Ramit: Okay, that is true. That is what you’re feeling. However actually, what do you see on the web page? What does it imply to you?
[00:05:44] Kate: I really feel like there’s one thing lacking. I do not perceive why issues aren’t shifting in a greater course. And so it feels to me like, okay, what’s lacking that’s the reason for why it isn’t performing effectively?
[00:06:00] Keith: I simply do not perceive as a result of when Kate and I first obtained collectively and a few numbers got here up in conversations, the very first thing I considered was a ebook I might learn eons in the past concerning the rule of 72. And I began simply doing math similar to you probably did. And I could not perceive why we weren’t taking a look at $5 million.
[00:06:21] Ramit: Precisely. Or rather more. Are you aware the reply to that?
[00:06:26] Keith: I understood that there was a proportion getting taken out for the administration charges, however past that, I could not fathom why it would not be a lot more cash.
[00:06:37] Ramit: There’s one different essential level. Kate, have you learnt why you do not have tens of millions and tens of millions of {dollars} extra?
[00:06:42] Kate: One thing that you just simply talked about that I hadn’t thought-about have been charges by way of buying and selling. However I would not think about that may be what you have been searching for.
[00:06:52] Ramit: The opposite factor is your investments are most likely canine [Bleep]. When you’re speaking concerning the rule of 72, we usually apply that to the S&P 500. In case you have a bunch of funds which can be underperforming the market, a variety of them, and they’re simply underperforming for years and years and years, it does not get higher.
[00:07:16] It simply will get worse and worse and worse. You are mainly compounding down, not compounding up. Plus you are paying charges. Now, I am not right here to beat you up. I truly suppose that, taking a look at this, I’ve a variety of compassion as a result of this [Bleep] is complicated. It isn’t clear what any of this implies. And the way in which that it is arrange makes folks really feel silly and, oh, okay, at the very least they’re like managing it. Nevertheless it’s clearly not serving you. Would you agree with that?
[00:07:43] Kate: Yeah, completely.
[00:07:44] Ramit: Okay. You talked about one thing about this particular person is an skilled in ESG. Are you able to clarify that to me?
[00:07:50] Kate: He is supposedly taking what our values are and divesting from any investments that may be paying into issues that we do not agree with. So we outlined a lot of issues that have been essential to us. We did not need to be investing in fossil fuels or weapons or non-public prisons. And so he went by way of a lot of the investments and divested a few of these into shifting away from that stuff.
[Narration]
[00:08:20] Ramit: I simply need to leap in right here and clarify that ESG stands for environmental, social and governance. It is mainly a method for individuals who need to have a option to display screen for investments in order that they’re environmentally sound. Now I need to let you know how ESG is perceived within the investing world. It has been critiqued quite a bit as a result of corporations will do one thing referred to as greenwashing.
[00:08:44] They’re going to mainly create a faux environmental division and so they’ll begin reporting on their environmental success usually simply to allow them to be included in these ESG shares. However a variety of it’s simply advertising. It isn’t usually substantive change. It is also essential to notice that the efficiency on ESG has not been nice. So within the funding world, ESG is unpopular. It is mainly laughed at. And most subtle buyers do not actually take it significantly.
[00:09:11] However I deeply perceive the will to spend money on moral corporations. Let me let you know one other method. One other widespread method that folks do that is to easily spend money on a diversified portfolio, like an S&P 500 index fund, then they merely take the features they get and turn out to be extraordinarily focused with their philanthropy or their charity.
[00:09:31] You possibly can create your individual scholarship. You possibly can donate to native charities in your space, libraries, faculties. That is one thing that I would extremely advocate. And this actually comes right down to the query of how a lot do your beliefs price you? It is like, yeah, I need to spend money on moral corporations. Okay, which may price you $2.6 million over the course of your life. Or when you flip that, you may have 2.6 million extra to have the ability to donate nevertheless you want.
[00:09:59] That is partly what’s taking place with Kate’s portfolio, and it has left some huge cash on the desk. So pay attention as I problem Kate to consider the repercussions of this funding technique.
[Interview]
[00:10:13] Ramit: Are you keen to spend money on ESG when you get a decrease return than the market?
[00:10:24] Kate: It’s an fascinating query, and I admire it as a result of I assume there’s two methods of fascinated by it, and which is the precise reply? There’s one method that we transfer away from ESGs as a result of we are able to do higher after which make a dedication to then taking our cash that we make and placing it in direction of areas that we really feel strongly about. And in order that’s one possibility. And the opposite possibility is, we would not make nearly as good investments, however we’ll decide to not investing in issues that do not align with us.
[00:10:57] Ramit: Proper. So what is the reply to my query?
[00:10:59] Kate: I assume I have been shifting extra in direction of investments that end in the next yield after which having the flexibleness with what we take out of that to then put in direction of the issues that align with our values.
[00:11:13] Ramit: I respect that you just need to be environmentally sound and also you need to put your cash the place your mouth is. I at all times admire that. The query of learn how to do it, particularly because the quantities get massive, can change into surprisingly advanced.
[00:11:26] Total, taking a look at this belief, I’m completely flabbergasted on the returns over the past 30 years. It is price you tens of millions, and we won’t do something trying again, however we are able to perceive what occurred on this belief, which I believe your dad and mom arrange if you have been a teen.
[00:11:44] Technically, they need to have recognized higher. They need to have been higher suggested. They need to have been extra tenacious about their illustration. However right here we’re in the present day, and we are able to make it possible for all people listening and watching this by no means lets their cash be managed this fashion. And let’s not neglect, you two are younger sufficient to let this cash compound quite a bit.
[Narration]
[00:12:03] Ramit: I’ve a confession to make. After we recorded this episode, I actually couldn’t sleep at evening fascinated by how this belief carried out over 30 years. The numbers have been truly driving me loopy, so I wished to search out out what occurred. So I requested Kate to ship over each single assertion, each single doc she has, so I may do a deeper evaluation round one query, what occurred? The place is the lacking $5 million?
[00:12:32] Now I need to be clear that this evaluation concerned piecing collectively scattered paperwork from three many years plus very foggy reminiscences. For instance, Kate advised me that she withdrew $36,000 a 12 months from the belief for just a few years whereas she was in grad faculty, plus about $15,000 for medical bills. She estimated it was about $200,000 in withdrawals. However in actuality, trying on the paperwork, Kate truly withdrew a complete of $461,945 throughout 14 years, from 2007 to 2020. That features $174,000 home buy in 2016 and $34,000 in medical bills.
[00:13:17] However Kate does not keep in mind this. And please perceive, that is truly actually regular. Folks do not keep in mind what drugs they took. They undoubtedly do not keep in mind the place they spent their cash. Bear in mind, once I ask folks how a lot they spent on consuming out, the reality is sort of 3x larger each single week. Think about attempting to recollect what you ate 30 years in the past or how a lot you spent. You might be off by actually a whole bunch of hundreds of {dollars}.
[00:13:45] So now we begin to perceive a clearer image. However earlier than you say, “Ah, she simply burned half one million {dollars}, that is smart,” think about this stunning reality. If she had merely invested in broad-based diversified index funds just like the S&P 500, versus paying an advisor to handle it, the belief could be price $6.1 million, even along with her withdrawals of over $460,000. So what occurred?
[00:14:17] It isn’t so simple as she simply paid some huge cash for monetary advisors. Sure, she did that. However this was a gross systemic failure throughout the board. Her dad and mom by no means taught her how cash labored. The investments that the advisors selected are a whole mess. You know the way I speak about a 7% return price? Her belief returned solely 2.9% over many years.
[00:14:40] There are additionally plenty of investments within the portfolio that overlap, which implies they’re undiversified, and plenty of of those investments have excessive charges, which additionally add up over time. After all, to not point out the advisor charges, which have been additionally fairly excessive.
[00:14:55] Now most individuals would not suppose a lot of those charges on a month-to-month foundation. It is simple to justify just a few thousand right here or there when your portfolio is almost seven digits. Nevertheless it’s like flying from LAX to Australia. When you’re off by only some levels, after 10 hours, you’ll be hundreds of miles off beam.
[00:15:15] That is why with any main funding like your retirement or your youngsters’ faculty fund, small modifications compound in a method that’s arduous for the human thoughts to really perceive. We’re not speaking a few 10% distinction. It will possibly actually be a 5-million-dollar distinction. And that is precisely what occurred right here, partly due to Kate’s lack of possession.
[00:15:39] Amongst all the opposite issues that occurred, that is Kate’s cash, and he or she herself didn’t take the duty of correct administration. However we’re right here in the present day. We won’t change the previous. So now that we perceive how she obtained right here, let’s deal with the long run and get proper again to their CSP.
[Interview]
[00:16:00] Ramit: Okay. Now again to the CSP. You advised me that your belief is just not within the CSP. Is that proper? Why is that?
[00:16:10] Kate: I assume technically as a result of I nonetheless do not feel like I’ve management over it.
[00:16:15] Ramit: What do you imply? You simply logged in.
[00:16:17] Kate: Proper. I simply logged in. It is in my title. Nevertheless, having a trustee and never understanding the foundations of what’s a belief, what does this imply, and feeling as if I’ve a capability to make modifications to that.
[00:16:31] Keith: She nonetheless has to undergo the trustee to get cash out of it or something like that.
[00:16:34] Ramit: Which is your dad.
[00:16:35] Kate: Proper.
[00:16:36] Ramit: You are an grownup, absolutely fledged grownup. You run a enterprise, however the minute it involves this, you revert again into childhood. Like, “Dad, what do you suppose?” Any of this join with you?
[00:16:46] Kate: Completely. And there was query about making another person the trustee, and we simply could not give you a greater particular person as a result of my dad felt like the precise particular person for it.
[00:16:56] Ramit: Mm. All proper. We are able to speak about that too. The belief cash needs to be factored into your aware spending plan. Okay?
[00:17:04] Kate: Mm-hmm.
[00:17:05] Ramit: What is the price of it once more?
[00:17:08] Keith: 1.01.
[00:17:09] Ramit: 1.0. Let’s simply say one million bucks. So take a look at the CSP. I’ll add the property right here. Are you prepared for this quantity change? Okay, watch. I modified the 1.2 million to 2.2 million. Whoa. What is the internet price now?
[00:17:28] Kate: Staggering.
[00:17:30] Ramit: Say the quantity out loud please.
[00:17:31] Kate: 2,891,793.
[00:17:35] Ramit: That is some huge cash.
[00:17:37] Kate: Yeah. We may purchase our canine a brand new canine mattress for certain.
[00:17:44] Ramit: What [Bleep] planet am I on proper now? I do not know the way a lot a canine mattress prices, however I do know it does not price $1 million. All proper, you could have virtually $3 million. What do you consider that? Is that some huge cash?
[00:18:00] Kate: Yeah. It seems like I will need to have made a miscalculation as a result of I do not get it.
[00:18:05] Ramit: What do you imply you aren’t getting it?
[00:18:06] Kate: I do not get the place all that got here from.
[00:18:09] Ramit: Properly, it got here from you investing because you have been 10 years previous. After which additionally one third of it got here out of your dad and mom’ belief, which was fairly massive, 30 years in the past, and stagnated and nonetheless fairly massive. That is the place it got here from.
[00:18:25] Kate: Sure.
[00:18:27] Ramit: Generally I believe that we create mysteries in order that we are able to keep away from the boring actuality of what truly is. The place did all this come from? I will need to have made a mistake. In any respect shall I do to determine it out? Really, no. I simply saved and invested. My dad and mom additionally put $800,000 once I was a teen.
[00:18:48] All that cash added up collectively now means we’ve got virtually $3 million. You possibly can dance round it. You possibly can ask inquiries to the cosmos, or you may simply take a look at it and confront it head on. We’re multimillionaires. What does it imply for us?
[00:19:08] Keith: It is noteworthy as a result of it wasn’t that way back. We weren’t having any dialogue that the belief got here in would end in tears.
[00:19:17] Ramit: Whose tears?
[00:19:18] Kate: Oh, mine.
[00:19:19] Ramit: Why?
[00:19:21] Kate: I believe there’s a variety of issues wrapped up into it the place my dad and mom have at all times taught me that cash is evil and also you should not have it, and you need to do issues for different folks and at all times contribute to the world. So there’s a variety of disgrace and a variety of emotion wrapped up in that belief and my dad and mom and their expectations, and it is overwhelming.
[00:19:45] Ramit: That is very complicated.
[00:19:48] Kate: Yeah, wildly complicated.
[00:19:50] Ramit: Cash is evil. Additionally, here is $800,000, which can flip into tens of millions or ought to have changed into tens of millions. It is very complicated. How did they reconcile that?
[00:20:02] Kate: They, on one finish, confirmed me the belief, however then stated, you may’t have entry to it till you are 25. However then 25 got here round and nothing modified.
[00:20:12] Ramit: Huh? You did not get entry until 25?
[00:20:15] Kate: There was no dialogue. It was only a verbal factor that was planted.
[00:20:19] Ramit: Did you carry it up?
[00:20:21] Kate: I did not.
[00:20:22] Ramit: How come?
[00:20:23] Kate: As a result of I did not have the braveness to, and I did not really feel worthy of doing so, most likely due to all these blended messages.
[00:20:31] Ramit: Do you’re feeling brave round your dad and mom now?
[00:20:34] Kate: I do.
[00:20:35] Ramit: You do. What modified?
[00:20:37] Kate: I modified an terrible lot. My dad and mom have been monetary security to me.
[00:20:43] Ramit: Mm.
[00:20:44] Kate: At any time when I used to be round them, yeah, I’d fall into previous habits, like allow them to decide up the invoice. Allow them to maintain me. And for some cause, that simply equated to, effectively, I want them as a way to be financially secure. In order that’s been an enormous a part of my journey within the final couple of years, is to separate myself from that.
[00:21:04] Ramit: However is not your loved ones spending $30,000 a 12 months serving to along with your medical bills?
[00:21:11] Kate: Yeah, and I considered that once I was saying it, and I am permitting that.
[00:21:19] Ramit: Mm-hmm. Why do you suppose you’re?
[00:21:25] Kate: As a result of it is simple and since I do not actually know learn how to do it myself.
[00:21:31] Ramit: You do not know learn how to pay $30,000 from $2.8 million?
[00:21:36] Kate: Not in a sustainable method.
[00:21:40] Ramit: Mm-hmm.
[00:21:41] Kate: As a result of in my thoughts it is like when you do not have cash invested, it isn’t rising. So something that I take out of it’s a subtraction and there’s no addition to that. And so in my head, it does not make sense to me and does not really feel comfy.
[Narration]
[00:22:01] Ramit: It is fascinating listening to Kate describe this concept of your cash lowering as a substitute of accelerating. That’s precisely how folks really feel after they retire and they’ve to begin drawing from their investments. And this phenomenon is extremely tough for lots of people to observe. You’ve got seen this quantity develop and develop over your lifetime, after which immediately, say 65 years previous, you watch that quantity go down and you understand it is solely happening.
[00:22:31] I used to be even speaking to my dad just lately. He is retired. He has to take his RMDs or required minimal distributions, and he got here to me and he mainly stated, “I do not know what to do with this cash. I believe I’ll reinvest it.” I stated, “Dad, the entire level of that cash is to spend it.”
[00:22:48] The very fact of the matter is for everyone, together with my dad, who’s fairly good with cash, it is actually arduous to get out of the mindset of making ready for the long run. It is even more durable to get into the mindset of truly spending that cash. That is the place an advisor, one who doesn’t cost you AUM, like Aspect, might be actually useful. If somebody in your life is newly retired or on the brink of retire, ship them this episode.
[Interview]
[00:23:17] Keith: I’ll problem that. I believe that you’ve got a mindset round cash the identical method you could have a mindset round actually good chocolate. You do not need to spend it. You need to sit there and take a look at it on the counter and know that it is there for you and prepared for you if you want it, however you are by no means going to wish it since you’re by no means going to take it as a result of you do not need that chocolate to be gone.
[00:23:38] Ramit: Is that true?
[00:23:42] Kate: I might say it is 100% true for who I was. I might say it is perhaps 50% true now.
[00:23:53] Ramit: Hmm. It is fascinating. This has occurred a number of instances in the present day the place I am going to ask you a query and what you may do is you may say, “Properly, it is gotten quite a bit higher.” I am certain it has gotten higher. Occurring a journey is superb and entails a variety of work and mindset modifications.
[00:24:14] However in the end, once I’m speaking to any person, I am asking them a query about the place they’re in the present day. And so if Keith says you could have bother spending cash, similar to you could have bother consuming chocolate, and I am going, “Is that true”? And also you go, “It is gotten quite a bit higher.” That is truly a method of letting your self escape from the true reply.
[Narration]
[00:24:34] Ramit: We have all heard tales about lottery winners who go broke 5 years later. Spending cash meaningfully is a talent, particularly if you take a windfall, whether or not it is an inheritance or a belief, or any type of amount of cash, even retirement, the place you haven’t ready what to do with it.
[00:24:57] That is why there are three essential expertise on the subject of cash. One, studying learn how to earn it. Two, studying learn how to handle it. Three, studying learn how to spend it meaningfully. Kate is a residing instance of how tough step three is, particularly as a result of she grew up in a household that taught her cash is evil.
[00:25:15] Regardless of her dad and mom having an enormous quantity of wealth themselves, they really do not have the talent of spending cash meaningfully. Truthfully, probably the most helpful factor could be for Kate to begin spending time with individuals who truly use cash to construct happiness, to have nice experiences, to construct and deepen relationships. We’ll get into that, plus Keith’s cash psychology after this.
[Interview]
[00:25:36] Ramit: Keith?
[00:25:37] Keith: Sure, sir.
[00:25:38] Ramit: You stated earlier that my first objective on this relationship was to ensure no person within the household thought I used to be right here for the cash. Inform me about that.
[00:25:52] Keith: I do not know the place it comes from or why I get to that time, however at first I used to be not in an incredible monetary place, and so I took on a little bit of bank card debt and spend it outdoors of my means to maintain dinners and to maintain issues like that, as a result of that was the messaging that I used to be placing into my head, was like, I do not need her to suppose that I am right here for her cash or something.
[00:26:13] Ramit: Did she ever say something that may make you suppose that?
[00:26:16] Keith: No, not likely. She stated issues that I interpreted, and it is most likely due to the way in which I used to be taking it relatively than the way in which she was saying it.
[00:26:28] Ramit: That is truly fairly telling, is not it? The truth that Kate’s the one in cost. Kate’s the one managing the cash. Kate’s the one worrying about cash. And Keith, you are the passenger. And in any relationship, there is a dynamic that is been established. And as we are able to see right here, we’ve got Kate, who’s the driving force. Fairly competent with some elements of cash.
[00:26:50] Nevertheless, had the 2 of you been companions, it most likely would’ve resulted in tens of millions and tens of millions of {dollars} for the reason that starting of your relationship. Simply due to that offhand remark you made Keith, rule of 72, Keith, you’d’ve had the braveness to carry it up. “Hey, what is that this rule of 72?”
[00:27:08] She would’ve stated, “I do not know.” You two would’ve talked about it. Let’s go perform a little research. Hey, why are we paying this particular person? Ought to we alter? Hundreds of thousands of {dollars} in your checking account. Extra importantly, connection. In order that’s the place we’ll be going.
[Narration]
[00:27:25] Ramit: In preparation for our dialog in the present day, I gave Kate and Keith some homework from my journal. Their solutions have been extremely revealing. As you pay attention in, you may get my journal from any bookstore, the I Will Train You to Be Wealthy Journal, and observe alongside.
[Interview]
[00:27:42] Ramit: Let’s speak about cash worries. Kate, your solutions have been fairly haunting. You wrote, “Not having sufficient. What others will take into consideration my having cash. Worrying I am making poor choices. Not feeling worthy of spending.”
[00:28:06] Kate: As you have been studying it again to me, I’m listening to actual phrases from my dad and mom that say each a kind of issues.
[00:28:14] Ramit: Inform me.
[00:28:17] Kate: My dad has repeatedly stated, my mother too, how when folks know that you’ve got cash, it turns into a ache within the [Bleep]. That individuals will simply begin asking them for cash. And so it is a burden, and so they have repeatedly put the concern of God into me when saying, you could have an emergency fund.
[00:28:40] What occurs when you get chronically sick, all kinds of various situations. That is from childhood. So making me really feel as if there’s some unforeseeable, huge occasion that is going to occur sooner or later, which goes to obliterate me financially. That is the way it’s at all times come throughout. And never having the ability to help myself. The feedback like, effectively, you higher marry wealthy. So each a kind of issues that you just simply learn has a supply.
[00:29:10] Ramit: Hmm.
[00:29:10] Keith: I used to be simply struck by your reply and my concern about you or your loved ones considering that I am right here for the cash.
[00:29:19] Ramit: What are you struck by?
[00:29:21] Keith: Simply making the connection that I’ve this concern or this concern to make it possible for folks do not suppose I am right here for another cause than as a result of I like her and need to be along with her. And he or she has this concern of different folks understanding that she has cash as a result of they will need to have cash from her. So I simply made the connection.
[00:29:40] Ramit: Do you see how these two work together with one another and affect one another?
[00:29:45] Keith: Sure. I see that now.
[00:29:47] Ramit: It is virtually such as you two are magnets, however in a method, your beliefs are repelling one another relatively than bringing one another nearer. You see that?
[00:29:58] Keith: Yeah.
[00:29:59] Ramit: Kate, what’s going to folks take into consideration you having cash?
[00:30:11] Kate: I assume on the very core, unsafe. It is somebody taking my company away.
[00:30:17] Ramit: Yeah, that is highly effective. And but I am struck as a result of is it unsafe to have misplaced tens of millions of {dollars} over the course of 30 years in charges or administration? Is it unsafe as a 40-something-year-old girl to should ask your dad for permission to take $30,000 out due to an sickness? That feels unsafe to me, particularly as any person who’s used to having autonomy.
[00:30:52] Kate: Yeah, I believe the medical bills really feel somewhat nuanced to me. The entire cause that they did not need me to pay for it was as a result of they’re very involved about passing their wealth onto me in a method that does not incur taxes. And they also noticed this as a chance to try this. However in the end, I believe you are proper. It is disempowering, and I’ve acknowledged that and tried to do my very own work to understand I need not clarify something.
[00:31:21] Ramit: However you do. You actually have to elucidate all this medical stuff to your dad in order that he cuts you a verify for $30,000 from your individual belief as a grown girl.
[00:31:36] Kate: The query hasn’t been requested, so fortuitously I have never felt like I am needing to elucidate. However yeah, there’s that dynamic.
[00:31:48] Ramit: Generally I believe there are values larger than tax effectivity. I am simply going to be actually blunt about it. If I have been in your scenario and there was some tax optimization factor, which saves me or my dad and mom, no matter quantity of money– it might be tens of hundreds, it might be a million– but it surely was stopping me from being my autonomous self, it was preserving me small, preserving me reverting to childhood, to be very blunt, I’d not give a [Bleep] how a lot I needed to pay in taxes. They’re larger values than tax effectivity.
[00:32:30] Kate: I admire that, and I do know precisely what Keith is considering proper now.
[00:32:34] Ramit: Keith, communicate up.
[00:32:36] Keith: I simply 100% agree with you. Kate’s dad and mom are superb, however Kate is a grown girl, and this energy dynamic has her performing as if she’s a 12-year-old lady and never taking up the function of decider of her personal life.
[00:32:53] Ramit: Name your dad and mom up and say, “I need to belief in my title, and I do not need to should undergo a trustee anymore.”
[00:32:58] Kate: I’ve already had that discuss with my dad.
[00:33:00] Ramit: What occurred?
[00:33:04] Kate: On the finish of the day, he is supportive of that. Nevertheless, he simply has no concept if it is doable due to how the belief is ready up.
[00:33:13] Ramit: That is an unacceptable reply, Kate, in my view. You requested your dad. He was like, I do not know the way. Then Kate, discover out. Do not put your self within the place of being a 16-year-old lady who’s depending on her dad. That is some huge cash. One million bucks. Discover out.
[00:33:32] Whenever you’re within the Northeast, I perceive that you’re planning to dwell a unit or an residence on your loved ones’s land. Is that right?
[00:33:45] Kate: Yeah.
[00:33:45] Ramit: Okay. Inform me about that.
[00:33:47] Kate: My dad and mom constructed a home that is a summer season residence for them.
[00:33:51] Ramit: Mm-hmm.
[00:33:52] Kate: We figured that at the very least in the meanwhile, we are able to dwell there to scale back our bills and to spend time with them, nonetheless have somewhat little bit of autonomy by being in a separate residence within the house. And that allows us to have the liberty to go to Hawaii with out having a property that we’ve got to keep up and fear about.
[00:34:14] Ramit: Obtained you. In gentle of our dialog in the present day, any new ideas on that? Can I simply let you know, I believe from a monetary perspective, it is [Bleep] superb. Like, ah, here is free housing, and you understand it. It is nice. From the angle of radically reexamining your relationship with cash and with others, actually expectations, which Kate, you advised me one of many high ones was, what do folks round me take into consideration cash, and the way do I really feel extra empowered?
[00:34:59] To me, that is the polar reverse of what you would possibly think about. Let me return as a younger teenage lady into my dad and mom’ property, which they’re paying for, after which each time I’ve a query, I’ve to ask them, “Please, mommy. Please, daddy, can I do X, Y, Z?” A multimillionaire girl. To save lots of, what, 5,000 bucks a 12 months, 10,000 bucks a 12 months, no matter? Does it make sense?
[00:35:31] Kate: We checked out a bunch of various choices and have not been capable of finding a rental for ourselves there. Seasonal leases like that do not actually exist. And we do not need to have to purchase one other place to then be fearful about it once we’re not there and have that burden.
[00:35:50] Ramit: Keith, what do you suppose? Is that this the precise transfer?
[00:35:53] Keith: At this second, I believe it’s the proper transfer. We ran the gamut with constructing our personal place on the property, residence or rental, after which constructing our personal home, after which going and shopping for a home, after which renting someplace. And we simply felt like, for this summer season, let’s simply not stress about that individual resolution, and perhaps one thing will come to us.
[00:36:14] Ramit: Okay. Properly, actually, that appears fairly affordable typically. Not each resolution might be completely excellent. Life is difficult. I believe your core worth of 1 factor at a time is admittedly good. And if I have been in your scenario, I would do precisely the identical factor.
[00:36:34] Personally, from a distance, I do not suppose it is ideally suited so that you can dwell in your dad and mom’ property, not when the 2 of you are attempting to carve out a life the place you do not really feel judged. However may you work that out a 12 months from now? After all. Did that shock you that I urged perhaps not residing there?
[00:36:57] Keith: Oh, no, we chatted about that. The dynamic that you just’re imagining so far as Kate residing along with her dad and mom and setting a selected tone, that exists. That occurs. And so wanting separation is unquestionably a part of that call. It’s powerful to stability too, as a result of we actually take pleasure in spending time with them. And so it is powerful to search out that stability.
[00:37:22] Ramit: I believe lots of people really feel that in the event that they find yourself with tens of millions of {dollars}, they’re simply going to really feel pleasure. Ah, I lastly achieved it. However the reality is, I believe lots of people are fairly shocked to understand that whether or not they’re in debt or whether or not they have tens of millions of {dollars}, they’re nonetheless afraid of cash. The query is, have you learnt learn how to make the precise choices?
[00:37:48] So I requested our companions at Aspect to try your portfolio and to share just a few situations based mostly on what the 2 of you advised me that you just would possibly need to do on this subsequent chapter of life. We could have a look?
[00:38:01] Kate: Yeah.
[00:38:02] Ramit: All proper. So I’ve three situations from our pals at Aspect. State of affairs one is you earn the identical revenue and also you journey. You might spend double what you spend now. Basically you may spend an additional $4,000 monthly, and you may use that for no matter you need.
[00:38:27] You’d additionally be capable of retire on the age of 62, and you’d improve your internet price as you bought older. So by the point Keith is 90, and by the point Kate could be 82, you’d have an estimated internet price of roughly $4 million. Let me get your instant reactions. Kate.
[00:38:55] Kate: Signal me up.
[00:38:57] Ramit: Wow. What do you want about that?
[00:39:02] Kate: I like that there is parameters, there’s flexibility, and there is predictability.
[00:39:11] Ramit: Yeah, that is very telling. I like when folks know themselves. You want parameters. Inform me the parameters, and I can play inside that, and I can win. I can see you nodding proper right here.
[00:39:22] Kate: Mm-hmm.
[00:39:23] Ramit: Good. That is superior. Keith, what do you consider that situation?
[00:39:28] Keith: It sounds nice. I assume I really feel the identical method too, this upon getting the sport plan set down, simply put your head down and reap the rewards from it, I assume.
[00:39:38] Ramit: Yeah, I believe that is true. You bought to know the sport, but it surely additionally requires you making some choices. Now, most choices are reversible, however it’s a must to determine, what will we truly need to spend cash on? You each appear fairly enthusiastic about it. And that is the place the Wealthy Life work begins. What’s our imaginative and prescient? What are we doing? What’s all this for? How can I take advantage of cash to make my life simpler? Okay. We could go to the following situation?
[00:40:10] Kate: Yeah.
[00:40:12] Ramit: State of affairs two, Aspect created this utilizing your data. Work extra, and you should buy a home. You mentioned shopping for a home sooner or later. You do not need to do it proper now, however let’s simply have a look right here. To illustrate that you just improve your month-to-month spending by solely $2,000, not 4,000, however you may improve your spending by 2,000 a month, which is some huge cash. You might buy a home in 5 years for $750,000. However you would want to extend your annual revenue to $50,000 and you may retire at 62. How does that strike you?
[00:41:00] Kate: The chance to personal our own residence with out having any involvement from my dad and mom implies that we are able to really have our personal house and do what we like with it, which is supremely interesting to each of us, and makes me actually excited. Even when it implies that we’ve got to work somewhat bit extra. What do you consider that?
[00:41:33] Keith: I like possibility one higher.
[00:41:37] Kate: Okay. That really surprises me.
[00:41:39] Keith: Clearly, I would like our personal place too, in order that may be very interesting. And the roadmap appears very accomplishable by us.
[00:41:49] Ramit: Wait, initially, that is [Bleep] nice. I like it. However what simply occurred? Are you guys going with two or one? What’s taking place proper now?
[00:41:56] Keith: I do not know.
[00:41:57] Ramit: An excessive amount of spinning. You are indecisive, however you do not have to select it like it may be the ultimate resolution. However can any person make at the very least a preliminary resolution?
[00:42:07] Kate: Yeah. I am going to decide.
[00:42:08] Keith: Okay, nice.
[00:42:11] Ramit: Wait, wait, wait, wait. Maintain on. Keith, for the primary time, make a monetary resolution.
[00:42:16] Keith: One.
[00:42:17] Ramit: Choice one. He goes, “Regardless of the [Bleep] it was.” One, one.
[00:42:22] Keith: Choice one. It was much less work.
[00:42:26] Ramit: Yeah. Okay. So make the identical amount of cash you have been making, 30k a 12 months, and you’ll double your spending. That is an additional $4,000 a month. You retire at 62. You are most likely not going to purchase a home.
[00:42:42] Keith: Kate, I’d love to listen to your reply.
[00:42:45] Kate: The idea of possibility one feels extra comfy to me proper now as a result of it implies that there’s much less stress. I can deal with my well being. I can be capable of deal with some pleasure as effectively and never really feel a way of stress to carry out or meet a sure quota or work in direction of one thing that perhaps does not match with my well being or my power ranges or no matter.
[00:43:11] So for proper now, that actually feels extra interesting to me. Choice two feels extra interesting to me, like 10 years down the street or we’re the place we retired to having our personal house, however not proper now.
[00:43:29] Ramit: Nice job. What’d you discover about that dynamic? Much more conversational. I felt such as you’re each studying one thing about one another.
[00:43:37] Kate: Yeah.
[00:43:37] Ramit: It is fairly academic. You’d be shocked how a lot new stuff there’s to be taught from our associate of 5 years, 10 years, 25 years, if we simply ask them. So I would like you to maintain that up.
[00:43:52] Let’s go to the situation three from Aspect. State of affairs three, you earn $0. You retire. You’d improve your month-to-month bills to eight,500. So you’d spend 4,500 extra. No change to your residing scenario. Your internet price will lower over time since you’re not bringing in any revenue. So that you’re mainly drawing from what you could have.
[00:44:24] However you may do it. Numerous different folks have. Your ESG investments, I’d strongly advocate you’re taking a second take a look at them. And I need to present you an instance. Right here we’ve got what your life may appear like. You possibly can see that cash begins to lower as you become older.
[00:44:43] However we are able to see that if the market returns much less, you then get right into a hazard zone if you’re very previous. We actually don’t need that. You do not need to be 92 years previous and operating out of cash. That is disaster. So we construct fashions to make it possible for by no means occurs or near by no means. What’s your tackle situation three?
[00:45:05] Kate: It does not attraction to me. Initially, spending that a lot additional from what we’re already spending does not appear to make sense to me. I am unable to consider a situation the place it will carry me pleasure. In order that proper there would not make sense to me. After which a part of what we might love to do is be capable of depart one thing to Keith’s youngsters. So that may not make that doable. So it does not actually attraction. What about you, Keith?
[00:45:37] Keith: Choice three wouldn’t be the one which I’d go for largely as a result of I am not prepared to simply cease working.
[00:45:45] Kate: Okay. How does it really feel to know that you do not have to work? It seems like a burden is taken off, a way of launch, a way of lack of stress to carry as much as some type of customary and dwell my life basically for another person.
[00:46:15] Ramit: Mm-hmm.
[00:46:16] Kate: And it seems like a way of freedom to let Kate be the driving force.
[00:46:26] Ramit: The motive force and perhaps the associate as effectively.
[00:46:30] Kate: Proper. Keith and I dream quite a bit. And we have been fortunate to show a few of these desires into careers, and it has been extremely rewarding. And I need to discover that in one thing that is not so bodily demanding, however that we are able to preserve doing collectively.
[00:46:49] Ramit: Yeah. I like that. What I would like for the 2 of you is to get crisp about what your Wealthy Life is, even for the following 12 months, the following 5 years, and so forth. The subsequent 12 months typically needs to be fairly dialed in. It is best to realize it. 5 years is usually a little bit extra obscure. 10 years might be much more obscure, but it surely’s not such as you’re two or 22 years previous. That is the time.
[00:47:17] What I actually want for you is to be aware, intentional about your Wealthy Life as a result of I believe you could have the potential for doing so many issues. And cash is just not actually a limiting issue for the 2 of you. It isn’t. You are in a really rarefied place. Most individuals, cash is the primary factor, stopping them. However you truly achieved the cash that you just want and extra. It isn’t a cause holding you again. If something, it is an accelerant for the type of stuff you truly need to do.
[00:47:52] In our dialog in the present day, I am curious, was there something that shocked you?
[00:47:58] Keith: I assume I got here to some realizations at how a lot I’m liable for my passenger nature, and I am somewhat dissatisfied that I have never gotten to a spot the place I have been in a position to provoke conversations higher and to turn out to be part of a dialog higher than I’ve up so far.
[00:48:18] Kate: I really feel like perhaps shock is not the precise phrase. Reevaluating my relationship with self-confidence and possession and empowerment. I do know I’ve finished a variety of work, however seeing that I’ve much more that I can do.
[00:48:35] Ramit: It is nice realization, each of you. Actually deep foundational realizations is precisely why I do what I do. A lot deeper than some quantity on a web page. It is who you’re, what your relationship is with cash, with one another, with the folks you’re keen on. That is why I do what I do. How are you feeling now in comparison with once we began this name?
[00:48:58] Kate: I am feeling fairly excited. I really feel just like the items of the puzzle are coming collectively, and I am feeling much more capability to get there as a pair, versus feeling as if it is my duty to determine it out. And so I am feeling fairly energized round that.
[00:49:16] Ramit: Love that. Keith?
[00:49:19] Keith: Assured and looking out ahead to having conversations and attempting to assist steer choices higher than taking a backseat.
[00:49:28] Ramit: Nice. Love that. I do not do that usually, however typically I simply give very direct recommendation on what I’d do if I have been in your scenario. Would you be okay if I share what I’d do? You do not have to take it, however I simply need to let you know level clean what I’d do.
[00:49:45] Keith: Yeah.
[00:49:45] Kate: Yeah, certain.
[00:49:46] Ramit: Okay. That is what I’d do if I have been you. How usually are you seeing your therapist?
[00:49:53] Keith: As soon as.
[00:49:53] Kate: In all probability each different week.
[00:49:55] Ramit: So I’d make that after per week, and I’d think about particular person remedy as effectively. There’s some actually foundational, highly effective stuff to work on when it comes to confidence, being energetic participant, having these conversations. I’d begin that instantly. I’d do it each week, and preserve the joint stuff up.
[00:50:12] I’d reread I Will Train and Cash for {Couples} collectively. The truth is, if something, I’d have Keith lead the studying of that, and I’d re-look on the accounts and simply be sure our accounts are flowing the way in which they need to be. Proper now I believe they are not. The truth that typically Keith relatively spend his personal cash than joint cash, that should not even be a query.
[00:50:37] So there needs to be cash put aside for every of you each single month, no matter whether or not you are incomes or not, with the intention to spend on belongings you love with out having to ask questions. Repair your accounts. Subsequent I’d eliminate that funding advisor, and you’ll both change over to a monetary advisor when you select to have one. We like Aspect.
[00:51:00] There are many others, simply not paying AUM proportion. I believe that any good advisor goes to try the funds you are in and need to dramatically simplify them since you’re simply paying charges on high of charges. And for the following 30, 40 years of your life, you do not need to be doing that.
[00:51:19] It would price you tens of millions. So I’d get out of that. I’d begin to create a imaginative and prescient of what your life appears to be like like with out being enmeshed along with your dad and mom. And that’s the whole lot from getting your dad out as a trustee. Both get the cash your self or discover a skilled trustee, like a regulation agency, and so forth. However he is obtained to be out. It simply cannot occur anymore.
[00:51:41] Housing, you understand what I used to be going to say, however I truly love your reply. Like, look, we won’t do it suddenly, so we’ll go there for the following 12 months. Cool. Completely respect that. However I’d have a imaginative and prescient that in X years, we’re out. We’ll discover one thing else in a roundabout way, by some means.
[00:52:00] I’d think about additionally postnup when you do not have already got it, as a result of this belief comes from your loved ones, Kate. And that additionally will remove Keith’s fear. So all of that may be written down, and each of you’d be tremendous comfy understanding. It is a finished deal. It isn’t like whispers in shadows. It is simply written down and clear.
[00:52:24] And I would definitely plan somewhat meal for the family members. Individuals are going to suppose it is bizarre. Why are they paying for our dinner? Are they present offs? And also you each observe your line. What are you going to say to them? You say it with an enormous smile, and that is it. So that is what I would need for you. These are some issues I’d think about. It is after all, completely as much as you.
[00:52:46] And remaining factor, simply keep in mind you could have tens of millions of {dollars}. There is no such thing as a advantage in taking part in smaller than it’s a must to. So that you, above virtually anyone else, have the flexibility to dwell a really Wealthy Life. I actually, really need you to make the most of it.
[00:53:07] Keith: Superior. Thanks.
[00:53:08] Kate: Superior. Thanks.
[00:53:08] Ramit: Proper. It has been a complete pleasure. Very good to fulfill you each.
[00:53:10] Kate: Me too.
[Narration]
[00:53:11] Ramit: A enormous thanks to Kate and Keith for talking with me and sharing so overtly. Most of us suppose that if we had $3 million within the financial institution, the one factor we’d really feel is pleasure. However as we simply noticed, a variety of difficult emotions come up, particularly with inheriting cash, guilt, disgrace, unworthiness.
[00:53:32] I discover this significantly fascinating as a result of as a tradition, we within the US are obsessive about creating generational wealth. I do know you have seen these freaking movies on TikTok. It is all about generational wealth. That is why I’m shopping for actual property. We save. We make investments. We stockpile all these items for the youngsters.
[00:53:50] However one factor we do not do is definitely discuss to the people who find themselves going to obtain the cash. How are you going to really feel? Do you’re feeling ready? Are you aware what to do with this cash? Have we taught you the teachings of learn how to deal with one of these cash?
[00:54:06] With out studying the talent of managing and spending cash meaningfully, generational wealth is not only a dream. It will possibly flip right into a nightmare. So when you’ve got the sensation of, am I going to be okay? Particularly heading into retirement, then I like to recommend you try side.com/ramit.
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[00:54:48] Kate and Keith made a ton of progress in the present day, however the true work begins when our dialog ends and their regular life resumes. My want is for them to take this present of a belief and actually use it meaningfully of their Wealthy Lives. Now let’s try their follow-ups.
[00:55:08] Keith: I discovered it very fascinating that after that decision, we have been each extremely exhausted. We had dug into so many emotional issues and monetary issues that we have been excited to have him give us the permission to not have to speak about funds after the decision with him.
[00:55:22] Kate: I felt like I simply wished to twist up with Keith on the sofa with a blanket and simply do all of the comforting issues. That alone advised me that there is stuff that hasn’t been mentioned or resolved or processed that must be.
[00:55:39] Keith: After giving us the permission to spend cash on a few of the issues that we thought-about a part of our Wealthy Life, Ramit had urged holding off on buying a car, which I had discovered to be essential so far as our plans shifting ahead. However after discussing it, we determined that it was a good suggestion to desk it for now whereas we work on a few of the issues which can be somewhat bit extra urgent for us.
[00:56:03] Kate: A few of the largest takeaways that I had have been realizing how, despite the fact that I’ve named my invisible scripts, how a lot they’re nonetheless taking part in a job in my opinion and the way I am displaying up in monetary issues. And in order that’s one thing that I undoubtedly am working extra in direction of dismantling. Had an incredible remedy session about it.
[00:56:25] Keith: We have now already had one good name with one in all our present monetary advisors, and we’ve got additionally had a improbable discuss between ourselves concerning the issues that we went over with Ramit on the decision. And one of many motion gadgets that we’re excited to maneuver ahead with is to attach with Aspect and use their companies to assist us get a concrete plan for a way we are able to put the whole lot into motion shifting ahead.
[00:56:54] Kate: We have additionally dedicated to my taking up my belief and firing the supervisor and taking extra duty in that, realizing that its efficiency is totally unacceptable. And that was one thing I already knew. However having a educated third occasion affirm that was very useful. So making a plan to chunk off chunks as we go and never really feel as if I must get it excellent and do all of it proper now. We have now time, and we’ll work in direction of it.
[00:57:28] Ramit: I obtained this message from Kate since they despatched of their preliminary follow-ups. “We selected Aspect situation primary as a result of we benefit from the work we do, and we do not need to step away from it. We had a gathering with the advisor for the belief and advised him to not make any additional modifications. We need to have one other plan in place earlier than revealing to him that he’s fired.
[00:57:50] “Thus far we have had three calls with flat payment advisors and have yet one more earlier than making the selection. From there, we are going to work on creating an funding plan after which executing it. They do not handle property, so we’ll acquire some confidence there with the security internet of some handhold.
[00:58:06] “We did promote our home and moved the $572,000 from it right into a high-yield financial savings account till we are able to implement our monetary plan. We additionally offered Keith’s automotive and put a deposit on a truck after realizing we won’t proceed doing our handyman job effectively or safely with out one. We agreed to buy one thing that may serve a number of functions and be with us for a very long time. It being probably the most reasonably priced truck available on the market is a cherry on high.
[00:58:34] “Total, we have made some nice modifications which can be considerate, intentional, and in step with our long-term plan. We’re additionally persevering with to separate ourselves from the household dynamic. We handled dad and a pal to lunch. Dad has virtually at all times paid previously, and we wish to take away dad as my trustee.”
[00:58:55] I am actually glad to listen to Kate and Keith’s follow-up. There are two issues that, in my view, actually matter from their follow-ups. The primary is beginning to take possession of their cash, together with getting a brand new advisor. And the second factor is separating themselves from this household dynamic. Each of these issues will make enormous modifications over the following a number of many years. Kate and Keith, nice work. Please preserve me up to date.